expectations will eat you alive
can't just say fuggit...hafta learn to live it.
People don't fail to return my calls, I refuse to be screened...
I do a higher thing and I don't let them fail.
I present to them a choice...
I let them decide...
Then...
I accept their decision...
I usually don't leave messages even to say call me back...
I check messages about once a week so they know if it's important keep trying...(unless i don't recognize the number that called then i do check)
I let the phone ring 4 times and hangup on the 5th if no answer.
I asked myself onetime "why am i talking to a tape recorder, i called a person". I figgure if they don't want to talk to me or call me back then they don't need to know why I called or hear what i have to say...
I also figured it isn't going to be my place to chase anyone down.
I often asked myself "why am i chasing down this person as if I were a begging child? they aren't listening to me so why keep trying"
My attitude changed when I began to hire people and argue with customers who cant or wont pay, not just my attitude with employees but with my employers, people at the cash register, women i meet... everyone... people who fail to respond...
I don't let them fail, I take it as their choice and then I take action upon that choice.
If I'm talking to you I'll look you in the eye and I expect you to listen. if you don't I will not repeat myself... If we later have a problem because you ignored me I will remind you exactly what I said, where we were and when.
The choice you are making when you listen or ignore is to chose to take lead on the issue or surrender it to me. For minor things give folks one chance because 2 chances becomes too many....and you will find if they know you they will listen and communicate...not let you chose for them if it's anything important or serious.
If someone gets ****ed off remind them... You addressed them about the issue, You gave them the choice to act or communicate and they chose to yield.
Authority comes only from the mouth of the author.
It is a fundamental cornerstone of free speech.
Your words must have a finite beginning and a certain ending in which the statement you propose is framed.
a statement framed in fuzzy logic, fuzzy morals, or with no solid geometry to it in structure or delivery (like rambling or repetitive)...
Compared to a statement framed in your personal authority,
is as a fart in the wind
compared to a thrown stone.
One the other party can make a face and ignore for convenience..
the other they cannot.
Follow the best and lead the rest.
Live is an action word.
You have the INTERNET, I'm sure you've seen websites where freaky people enjoy the most unimaginable degradations and tortures just for kicks. There is pleasure even in pain.
Pleasure and pain are just like tinnitus in your ears
whichever you direct your attention to, you experience more fully regardless the circumstances.
The naked wierdos in their basement torture chambers have what they call a safe word for when things get to be to much....
This world has a safe word...
Father,
Give me the ability to tolerate the things I cannot change, the strength to change the things I can, and the wisdom the know the difference.
somewhere in there I find the core of my sanity
...... there, I feel much better now.....NOT!!!
